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Darcq and radio presenter Nick Mutuma stole a camera moment. I believe there is a Deity. Everything else is gravy. If pressed, I say I believe in God. Sounds like your mom. That's why we created all those gods and goddesses and religions. So we have something to relate to. The absolute belief that they are loved unconditionally. The dogma became more important than the faith. If it comes out of the ground easily, it is a valuable plant. Nobody gets out alive anyway. Not really good for anything, but you still can't help but smile when you see one tumble down the stairs.
I'm gonna eat the next thing that comes outta its butt. Some of those lines made me LOL for real! Morphy, forgive me if I missed it but when does Mr Morphy start his new job? I hope he's enjoying it if he already has. I'm way behind here I'll probably check it out when he's done with it. They had him start almost right away. And, yes, he's enjoying it. Sometimes if I've seen the movie first and really liked it, the book is disappointing.
That happened to me with Howl's Moving Castle. This is my favorite version! Why oh why can't I remember some of these funny lines when I need them? So glad Mr. Morphy is liking the new job Go, Morphy!!! It might be because I watched the movie first, but I doubt it. I didn't like the characters in the books and I thought the plotting was all over the place. Whereas the movie is a favorite. Being a Disney movie, I can't find a clip, just a trailer.
Calcifer: I don't cook! I'm a scary and powerful fire demon! Had a lovely dinner last night. It was volunteer appreciation for WeCAB, the local transport nonprofit that I do dispatch and bookkeeping for. I also somehow became treasurer when I wasn't looking. We had cocktail shrimp, cheese and crackers, fried cheese curds and strawberries for appetizers then some type of chicken dish with a creamy sauce over wild rice and vegetables, then various bars for desserts. I had a chocolate one with nuts. I won a booklet with the history of our town and the person who won a gift certificate for Walgreen's couldn't use it so gave it to me.
It was a delightful evening. Tomorrow morning I'm volunteering at the local senior center. Hidden Treasures, the shop I go to once a week to spend time with the "ladies", is having a boutique before a fashion show and I'm going to be the cashier and money counter. At least you're good with numbers. I work very, very slowly to make sure I get the numbers the right way around. It sounds like a nice evening, and I hope there will be lots of money for you to count tomorrow. Howl's is a favorite here! LOL, sounds like everyone is excited about your degree! Morphy - so pleased to see the good news for both you and Mr.
Liked Stasia's take on religion and note that that applies equally to all the organised religions - it is normally some asshole putting himself forward as an authority pontificating on the ills of the world and help everyone hate each other. I have to say his sermon was wonderful and specifically said prayers in a very heartfelt manner for those of all creeds, beliefs and denominations.
If there were more like those chap around people wouldn't go to war misappropriating God or their vision of God. Have a lovely weekend. It was held in a local senior apartment complex. It's a large set of building and we were in "The Court" - an atrium filled with light and openness and greenery. A nice change to the never-ending winter. It's hard for me to get out of the house with my disability but it's so worth the effort. But I'm just eating it all up. Some people give religion a bad name and others are what it "should" be. The problem seems to be the former are louder than the latter.
LibraryThing members are the best community in the world. How cool is that??!! Morphy is enjoying his new job. Things are looking up! I'm looking forward to at least a few months of peace and quiet. And I like singing, "Whoo hooo Whooo hooo I came across a place in the middle of nowhere With a big black horse and a cherry tree. Oh, I love that song, Morphy! And Howl's Moving Castle is a favorite around here although I have not read the book- it is in the stacks waiting patiently for me. I have seen the movie, though, which all of my kids adore.
I saw the fundraiser mentioned in The State of the Thing - so cool! And your dinner sounds lovely! And your comment about becoming the Treasurer tickled me: "I also somehow became treasurer when I wasn't looking. They are so lucky to have you, Morphy! Great song. Hi Morphy! I'm sorry to have been away from your thread for so long - I hope I can remember all the things I was thinking about saying! Congratulations to MrMorphy on his new job - has the hours issue worked out?
Woohoo to you! Graduating with High Honors in anything is impressive - I can't imagine doing it in accounting! Good for you! From way back on your last thread: Ethan Frome. Hated it. What were they thinking making high school students read it? Were they trying to make everyone hate literature?
Thanks for all the fun songs and wacky jokes - you make your thread a happy place. That was a terrific album. What happened to KT? She started so strong. I am awesomesauce with fantastitoast! Whoo hoo Whoo hooo They said after six to eight weeks. He's been working full time so far though. So keep your fingers crossed. And I'm glad you think my thread is a happy place! Just not as popular as she once was. This could be a book handed down from a relative or one you spent extra money on to get a special edition, etc. I've had it for years and still haven't removed it from the plastic wrapping.
For MrMorphy it would be Lee's Priceless Recipes published in that he got from his grandfather or perhaps his first edition Tarzan and the Ant Men , also from his grandfather. I have a copy of The Wonderful Wizard of Oz that was published in It is in pretty poor condition from being read over and over and over, but I'm okay with that because I'm a believer that books should be read. My OLD Oxford Latin Dictionary , which my grad school friends and professors all chipped in to buy for me for my birthday one year.
It was an extremely thoughtful and completely unexpected gesture and I broke down and cried when they gave it to me. It's giggle-worthy. How are you feeling? Any feedback? Should I keep going? I heard it gets better halfway through but do I really want to read another pages before it gets interesting? I have seen reviews both positive and negative for Gone Girl. Personally, if the book is not doing it for me by the page mark, I will ditch it, but then return at a later date.
I try and give every book at least 2 shots before deciding it is just not for me because I am very much a moody reader. I'm pretty easy going when it comes to giving books a chance. It takes a lot for me to put a book aside. I can count on my hand how many I don't finish a year. So if I put it aside, I'm done. The video is surreal but fun. I'd say if you're not liking Gone Girl , ditch it.
Though I have heard rumor that it gets more interesting as it continues I went searching Paul's thread but couldn't see what you were talking about. Came back here and you changed your message! The writing and plot weren't interesting enough to get past the unlikable characters.
Back to the library it went! Russell: Cool! My mom loves that game! It's a movie theater and restaurant. And we love those movie theaters. Alamo Drafthouse around here. They usually have some fun events. They were serving Elevensies and Coney Stew We always get a pitcher and a plate of warm cookies. Have fun! Luckily, Dejah got me all straightened out, so I could quickly change it : I guess not quickly enough! I am forever getting people's names mussed. I can't keep IRL names straight for the life of me. Morphy has been taking LT by storm for quite a while!
In my family there's quite a bit of claiming the the squirrels did it - from The Santa Clause 2. The cats frequently use this excuse Morphy - You and Es both taking the group by storm this year. If anything this year has shown how much you are loved in this group despite the occasional faux pas when it comes to book-choice, hahaha Hope you and Mr. Morphy have a lovely weekend. Yes, Morphy, you are fantastic and appropriately well-adored. You deserve all of that adulation! Getting older sucks! When I respond to posts, I have the threadbook up so I can refer to people by name.
I have a hard time remembering. Just because SOME people have boring taste He's playful and happy again. On the flip side, I am having a terrible time with my eating disorder. For the last month, my eating has been out of control and I've regained 26 pounds. Anxiety has been awful and I feel on edge all the time. I've been self-medicating with food. I'm seeing my doctor on the 15th and she's getting me back into the binge eating disorder program.
After a year of really good results, I feel like I'm back where I started and I'm scared to death I'm going to regain all the weight. I'm hurting and don't know what to do to get myself back on track. Morphy, remember you have a huge online support system, and we're all rooting for you! Oh, Morphy, I'm so sorry to hear that. Do your best, and try not to guilt yourself into feeling even worse. Shit happens! Morphy- Sorry about the relapse. How frustrating. Hope you can get back on track. Sorry, Gone Girl didn't work for you. I would think, that if the first 50 pages didn't grab you, then this is just not your cuppa.
Fortunately, there are a billion other books to fill the void. Stress and you've had a lot of it lately can be brutal. Don't knock yourself for responding to it in ways that bring you comfort. It's great that you're going to get some help! I hope that with MrMorphy being happier in his new job and you rejoining the program your stress levels will lessen and and you can find some strategies to get back on track. You've done it before - you can do it again!
Morphy, you are beautiful and wonderful. We are here for you, sistafriend! PS: "ululation" is a fantastic word. I'm rooting for you Morphy. I had my own eating disorder, and while it takes time things do work out. I hope you feel better and less stressed soon. Morphy, I was wondering how it was going. Are you keeping up your food diary, no matter what you eat?
That's the only thing that works for me, and it means when you go in to your doctor and group, the pattern is right there to be worked on. Relapses are, unfortunately, very normal, as we all well know, and with a little bit of additional structure now, you can get back on track. Up is a fantastic movie. I'm sorry to hear about your fall from the weight-loss wagon. Roni's right, though - these things are not unusual, and we all know that you can get yourself back on track, Lady!
When everything settles down is when I struggle the most. Weird, huh? That's my best tool and the one that falls by the wayside when I'm struggling. I just wish the video weren't quite so long. I could do without the extended intro. In fact, I just watch the video and I much prefer Bad Romance's video. This one is just yuck.
But I do prefer the song itself. I'm going to lean on my support here and start a binge-free days count. Binge free means I journal my food and that I stay within my calorie range unless it's a special occasion like a dinner out which shouldn't be that often. I need to stop this. Morphy, your honesty always staggers me. I am thinking about you and sending you good mojo. Up there you said to Dejah: "it always seems that I have the hardest time when the "storms" are over. I think that happens to a lot of people because when the storm is happening, you are just doing everything that you can to weather it and the focus is not on yourself.
When the storm is over, then you have time to feel all those emotions that your were putting on hold while your focus was elsewhere. You let down your guard, and suddenly you realize how much the experience took out of you and you feel exhausted and edgy. Hugs to you, dear one. I am rooting for you. I think a binge-free days count is an excellent idea - you know we're all behind you, Morphy! And I think Mamie has the post-storm situation exactly right The day calorie challenge that you posted on here earlier worked very well for you, so I think posting your binge-free days would be a good idea, too.
And it gives us all an opportunity to cheer for you! Morphy - My heart goes out to you regarding your difficulty in keeping weight of permanently as I have struggled with rising weight ever since I got married another thing to lay at SWMBOs door. From my cycling days my dear I have to say that you just have to get back on your bike after falling.
Go back to doing the things that took off the weight in the first place the routine and the targets will then push you forward. Yesterday is gone and cannot be got back but tomorrow is yours. Your support means a lot to me. I don't think I could do this without my LT buddies. When I track my food, I'm successful. When I'm struggling, the tracking is the first thing to go.
Beautiful for being such a blessing and support. I used to have a unicorn collection that numbered over items. But I hit my late teens, scoffed at my younger self's collection and sold it at garage sales. This wasn't general knick-knack stuff you could get from Hallmark. These were unicorns hand-sewn by a grandmother, porcelain from a grandparent's trip to Europe, gold charms, pewter figurines. I could weep over it now. I'd like to start a collection of something. But I don't know what. Unicorns don't interest me.
Perhaps blue butterflies for my username? What do you collect? I have a small collection of music boxes, primarily carousel horses and metal ones sometimes both! I keep them with my books on the very top shelf. We're rooting for you, Morphy. With MrMorphy working yay! So once or twice a year we hire someone to come in and deep clean. Today is the day! Meanwhile, yesterday I did a lot of school work which means that all I have left is my final exam and I'm done with college forever. Okay, this is going to sound so lame, but I collect bowls that look like fruit or vegetables - real fruit and vegetables, no cutesy stuff.
Big bowls that can sit on the counter or tabletop. I like to switch them out according to what's in season. I also have a secret weakness for cocktail napkins. They have over-run the house. I don't really collect anything—I need all the space for my books. My husband collects toy tractors, which take up all of the wall space in the basement. He regularly goes to farm toy sales and auctions. I collect penguin stuff. Oh, and animals I've won from claw machines. And we have a small collection of signed CDs from some of our favorite artists too.
Hooray for a deep cleaning! Hi, Morphy. We all have days when we go backwards, but it's not the end of the world, so don't beat yourself up about it. We're all here for you. I'm something of a hoarder, so I tend to collect everything; but I do have a thing for elephants. Not just any elephant, though, but unusual ones.
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When we got married, my husband had accumulated several unintentionally, I think, but they formed a group which has turned into a collection. For example, one is carved out of stone, and it's back is carved into latticework, through which you can see a baby elephant, carved out of the stone.
The whole thing is one piece, with no breaks. Something like this. This is the primary cabinet, but I do have two more cabinets of figurines plus about 70 cat mugs and several sets of cat dishes Fortunately, I have pretty well stopped collecting now. Trying to figure out what to do with my binder full of cat stickers now that I'm retired and can't impress my students with it any more. I used to collect fridge magnets but a new fridge put paid to that one. Now I collect interesting wooden or ethnic kitchen utensils which is far more practical as they can be put to use.
My brother collects old tools and my mother has an elephant collection. My mother was married for a while to an American and they lived in an old villa in Sonoma. Her husband collected old appliances and they used them for everyday living. He also collected vintage clothing that had been used in movies and then collected tapes of the movies themselves. Hiya Morph! Congrats on day 1! You can do this!
You've got all of us here rooting for you. I loved collections as a kid, and had a good number of shadowboxes and shelves full of everything from ceramics to figurines to stuffed animals. Looking back, I was pretty near obsessive bordering on hoarding with my collections! But they collected dust and took over, and I simply couldn't move everything into a student apartment so I gave it all up. The only thing I allowed myself to take were a handful of Hagen Renaker miniature siamese cats which I'd had since I was a toddler.
I really really love them. I bought my daughter one of her own recently, but I don't add to my own collection any more. I put all my hoarding issues into books these days. I want to do something unusual like that, too. And I'm like you with blank journals. I have more blank journals than I can possibly write in in my life time. Who's idea was that? Considering the "we. I usually get all my books from the library. She worked all day but has about two more hours to finish.
My house will be all sparkly! We even got to open the windows and air out the house for the first time since last fall. It was all unusual types, not just "knick-knack" stuff you'd get at Target, etc. I bought a bunch of blank cards for writing notes and was going to buy some stickers to put on the front. I'd love to get rid of the collection and the frig though! One or two shelves worth would be plenty. I don't think he should complain until you have at least a dozen!
Wacky Wednesday For your puzzler enjoyment Johnny's mother had three children. The first child was named April. The second child was named May. What was the third child's name? There is a clerk at the butcher shop, he is five feet ten inches tall and he wears size 13 sneakers. What does he weigh? Before Mt. Everest was discovered, what was the highest mountain in the world?
How much dirt is there in a hole that measures two feet by three feet by four feet? What word in the English Language is always spelled incorrectly? Billy was born on December 28th, yet his birthday is always in the summer. How is this possible? In California, you cannot take a picture of a man with a wooden leg. Why not? What was the President's Name in ? If you were running a race, and you passed the person in 2nd place, what place would you be in now? Which is correct to say,"The yolk of the egg are white" or "The yolk of the egg is white"?
If a farmer has 5 haystacks in one field and 4 haystacks in the other field, how many haystacks would he have if he combined them all in another field? I'll provide answers tomorrow. Calories: Binge Free It's a eating out day. During the day, I'm off to Gillespie Senior Center. We're having meatloaf, mashed potatoes, veggies and a dessert for lunch. I'll work on some type of project for the shop. Last week it was putting strings into price tags. Nothing real exciting but I like doing it while I chat with the "ladies. I guess I'm sort of a mascot.
Tonight, we're going to a church dinner. Root Beer Floats for dessert. Again, not bad! Thanks for mentioning that book. I'm going to check it out. I was raised Roman Catholic, but never go to church. Not only do I not believe in so much they preach, it angers me. Big time. Won't attend a place where as a woman I'm considered second class. Like Sylvia, I think I figured them all out.
I passed them on to my puzzle-loving dad. Good for you for helping out at the Senior Center. I'm sure the ladies appreciate it. I think I got them all too. I had to read a couple of them twice, though, and check my assumptions at the door! Hehe, I love those puzzles. Good luck with your food tracking! I think I'm good on the puzzles, Morphy - and I know you're great for day 2!
I think I got all but one of your puzzles : Thanks for the smile, Morph! Talk to me Tuesday is over, but I sort of collect wine. If we have no head for mathematics, who is going to balance the checkbook? If we are sloppy, who is going to pick up our socks? So we also look for complementary qualities in a long-term love partner. But not any complementary qualities—only the ones we find interesting or that enhance our lives.
Hence, we seek someone who is both similar and complementary. In Part Two, we will explore methods of planting subliminal seeds of similarity in your Quarry's heart and ways to make him or her know that, even though you two are basically alike, you are different in so many utilitarian, fun, and interesting ways.
Everybody wears a price tag. How much prestige does he have? How blue is her blood? How much power does he wield? Are they rich, intelligent, nice? What can they do for me? Does this sound ugly? Researchers tell us love is not really blind. Everybody—even the nicest people—has a touch of crass when it comes to choosing a long-term partner. I can hear some of you protesting, "No, love is pure and compassionate. It involves caring, altruism, communion, and selflessness. That's what love is all about. You've probably even met couples who are deeply devoted and would sacrifice everything for each other.
Yes, this kind of selfless love that we all dream of having exists. But it comes later—much Page If you want to make someone fall in love with you, researchers say, you must initially convince them they're getting a good deal. We may not be conscious of it but, science tells us, tried and true market principles apply to love relationships. Lovers unconsciously calculate the other person's comparable worth, the cost-benefit ratio of the relationship, the hidden costs, the maintenance fee, and the assumed depreciation. Then they ask themselves, "Is this the best offer I can get?
And, in order to make people fall in love with you, you have to make them feel they're getting a very good deal. Is all lost if you weren't born drop-dead gorgeous, or if your grandfather's name wasn't Vanderbilt or Kennedy, or if you don't have the compassion of a Dr.
In Part Three, we will explore silver-tongued verbal skills to replace the silver spoon that was never in our mouths when we were born. In that way, we can satisfy some very choosy Quarry. Let Me Count the Ways At the blazing core of first romantic rumblings is ego. Perhaps Cupid misses the mark when he aims his little arrow at Quarries' hearts. Science shows us where to really level our ammunition and take fire—right at their egos. People fall in love with people in whose eyes they behold the most ideal reflections of themselves.
Would-be lovers should be thrilled that ego makes the world go round, because Quarries' egos are very vulnerable targets. There are multifarious ways to make your Quarry feel beautiful, strong, handsome, charming, dynamic, or however he or she wants to feel. There are big-stroke compliments, little-stroke caresses, and a myriad of deliciously devious means to make your Quarry feel special.
Subtle procedures can convince Quarries what they've suspected all along: "I am differPage I am wonderful. And to thank you for recognizing this amazing fact, I'll fall in love with you. We seek protection in our primary relationship from the cruel, cruel world. In Part Four, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You explores ways to make your Quarry feel that you are the salvation—you are his or her safe harbor from the storm of life. Everyone smiled knowingly in when Rex Harrison moaned from the Broadway stage, "Oh, why can't a woman be more like a man?
But in the era following My Fair Lady, feminists cast serious doubt on his convictions. Now, after many decades of pondering, presuming, and postulating on whether men and women really differ in anything but their genitals, the envelope has been opened. The answer is—drumroll. Men and women think and communicate in dramatically different ways. Neurosurgeons can point to clumps of neurons in female brains that cause men like Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady to call women "exasperating, calculating, agitating, maddening, and infuriating. Perhaps recent scientific findings will give men and women more insight into each other's style, but nothing short of a frontal lobotomy could make a permanent change in which brand of neurons our brains give off.
Women will continue to be "exasperating," and men will still be "insensitive. To avoid scaring off their prey before they bag it, serious big-game hunters know all the characteristics and habits of deer, moose, caribou, bison, and wild hogs. Likewise, serious love Hunters and Huntresses must be well versed in gender differences if they intend to make the kill. Part Five briefs you on how to avoid the most common early-date turnoffs to make even the most wary Quarry comfortable letting down his or her guard.
Love-shy Quarry who usually take flight when a man or woman gets too close will happily come within firing range of your arrow. Rx for Sex How to Turn on the Sexual Electricity Many books on how to turn on your partner make sex sound like flipping the switch on the night-light next to your bed. Stroke there for an extra charge. Mindpower is what drives the mighty machine and keeps it generating heat for many years. The most erotic organ in your Quarry's body is his or her brain. For details and how-tos, there is no lack of reference books.
The list goes on. Such manuals are replete with detailed data for women on how to tickle that spot just below the "cute little helmet" to drive him out of his gourd. Men can examine idiotproof charts on where to let their fingers do the walking so as to not miss the U-turn that leads to her G-spot. All of this is important stuff—very important stuff. But when it comes to actually making somebody fall in love with you, it pales in comparison to what I'll call brain fellatio—sucking the dreams, the longings, and the fantasies out of your.
Quarry, and then creating a lifelong erotic aura that he or she luxuriates in. Gentlemen, far more important for a woman than how many times you can "do it" in a week or even in a night is the sensuality and passion you create in every aspect of your relationship. And the sensations you give her every time you look at her. Ladies, far more important to a man than your bra-cup size or the curve of your hips, is the size and curve of your sexual attitude and how you deal with his individual sexuality.
No two sexualities are alike, just as no two snowflakes are alike. I will give you techniques to uncover your Quarry's unique sexuality and then make love to him or her just the way he or she likes it. In Part Six, we will explore the right kind of sex to make your particular Quarry fall in love with you. Let us now embark upon our six-part journey, starting with what happens physically when we fall in love. Page Some of the first techniques you will learn ignite your Quarry's physical response to you before his or her brain catches up.
We will put love through the brain-scanner and under the x-ray machine to examine what physically happens to your Quarry when he or she starts to feel that incredible sensation called love. Scientists tell us only PEA -brained people fall in love. At the core of infatuation, they speculate, is a chemical called phenylethylamine, or PEA. It is a chemical cousin of amphetamines and gives a similar "kick.
This is the chemical which makes your heart palpitate, your hands sweat, and your insides go all funny. It is rumored that PEA can also make you want to rip your Quarry's clothes off at the first available opportunity. It is as close to a natural high as the body can get. Cole Porter obviously knew what he was singing about when he wrote "I get a kick out of you. This adds to the quickly mounting scientific evidence that romantic love is relatively short-lived. That's why some people become "love junkies. Now, since you can't go around armed with a syringe filled with phenylethylamine, spot your Quarry, and inject the PEA -filled tube into his or her bloodstream, you do the next best thing.
You develop techniques to trigger PEA -brained responses in people and give them the sensation that they are falling in love. No, PEA and its sister chemicals are precipitated by emotional and visceral reactions to a specific stimulus. Like what? It can be a whiff of her perfume, the boyish way he says hello, or the adorable way she wrinkles her nose when she laughs.
It could even be an innocuous article of clothing you're wearing that drives your Quarry bonkers. For example, in Conrad Hilton, the founder of the Hilton hotel chain, flipped over a red hat that he spotted sitting five pews in front of him in church. After the services, he followed the Page Where do they come from? Are they in our genes? No, genes have nothing to do with falling in love. The origin lies deeply buried in our psyche. The ammunition that gets fired off when we see hear, smell, feel something we like is lying dormant in our subconscious.
It springs from that apparently bottomless well from which most of our personality rises—our childhood experiences or, most significantly, what happens to us between the tender ages of five and eight. When we are very young, a type of subconscious imprinting takes place, similar to the phenomenon that occurs in certain species of the animal kingdom. During the s, an eminent Austrian ethologist, Dr. Konrad Lorenz, induced a flock of baby ducks to become hopelessly attached to him. Observing how baby ducklings, shortly after hatching, begin to waddle along in single file behind their mother—and continue to do so into maturity—Dr.
Lorenz decided to imprint the ducklings with himself. Lorenz hatched a clutch of duck eggs in an incubator. At first sight of their little beaks breaking through eggshells, he squatted low as if he were a mother duck and waddled past the eggs. They promptly broke free and followed him across the laboratory. Thereafter, despite the presence of real female ducks, these imprinted little ducklings continued to waddle after Dr.
Lorenz on every possible occasion. Researchers have shown that the phenomenon of imprinting is not limited to birds. Various forms of it exist among fish, guinea pigs, sheep, deer, buffalo, and other mammalian species. Are humans immune to imprinting? Well, unlike the duped ducklings queued up behind Dr. Lorenz, we don't continue to Page Universally respected sexologist Dr. John Money coined the term Lovemap to describe this imprinting. Our Lovemaps are carvings of pain or pleasure axed in our brains in early responses to our family members, our childhood friends, and our chance encounters.
The cuts are so deep that they fester forever in some nook or cranny of the human psyche, just waiting to bleed again when the proper stimulus strikes. Money said, ''Lovemaps. They're as common as faces, bodies, and brains. Each of us has one. Without it there would be no falling in love, no mating, and no breeding of the species. You have a Lovemap.
We all have Lovemaps. They are indelibly etched into our egos, our ids, our psyches, our subconscious. They can be positive imprintings. For example, perhaps your mother wore a certain perfume, your beloved father had a boyish grin, or your favorite teacher scrunched up her nose when she laughed. Perhaps a beautiful lady in a red hat was kind to little Connie Hilton when he was growing up in San Antonio, New Mexico.
Lovemaps can be negative, too. Women, maybe you were molested as a child, so now you can never love a man with a leering smile. Men, maybe your cruel wicked aunt wore Joy perfume, so now any woman who gives you a whiff of Joy makes you want to flee like a bug blasted with insect repellent. Lovemaps sometimes contain very convoluted paths. Early negative experiences can give them a strange twist. Women, maybe your father ran off with another woman, leaving you and your mother alone, so now, if your date so much as glances at a passing lady, you freak out.
Gentlemen, perhaps your beautiful baby-sitter spanked you when you were five, but it stimulated your little genitals and felt good. So now, as an adult, you cannot fall in love with a woman unless she will give you love spankings. Forgotten experiences, both positive and negative, are remembered by your sexual subconscious. If the timing is right Page A shot of PEA shoots through your veins. It blasts your brain, blinding you to reason, and you begin to fall in love. It's the necessary spark to kick-start love.
That's just for starters. The starter gets your car going, and then the battery takes over. Similarly, after your brain recuperates from its first shot of PEA , a little reason hopefully starts to make its way through the grey matter. As you and your PLP get to know each other better, you begin exploring your similarities and your differences we cover this in Part Two , and you both start asking yourselves, "What can I get from this relationship?
We listen to our ego and see how much reinforcement it's getting Part Four. Early love is very delicate, and often we inadvertently turn our Quarry off in the first few dates Part Five. If we get beyond that, what goes on—or doesn't go on—between the sheets plays a gigantic role Part Six. Throughout How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, we will explore all these factors from a scientific point of view. Let us now go back to the beginning. Where do you find a Potential Love Partner? Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places Single and divorced people, young and old, all across America are asking themselves as they brush their teeth in the morning, as they shave or put on makeup, as they touch up the grey in their hair, "Where are all the good men?
Where are all the good women? And their number is growing.
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Today, even with jet travel, on-line romances, and a shrinking globe, most people marry pretty close to home. Studies on what social scientists call residential propinquity show that Cupid's arrow does not travel far. In fact, one study tells us the median distance traveled by an unskilled worker to find his Page You'll outfit yourself with some new knowledge and, armed with the techniques in this book, you can start tracking Quarry very close at hand.
You've heard the wail of unsuccessful lovers: "I'm looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in all the wrong faces. Most have been looking for love in all the wrong ways. Theatrical performers know they need a different set of skills to get cast from an audition than they need to sustain a role on stage. They must immediately knock producers out with their talent, sometimes in one minute or less. Likewise, you need different skills to make someone fall in love with you than you need to keep a relationship warm for a lifetime.
Without that strong first kick, he or she might never get to know you, let alone fall in love with you. Let's say you get lucky tomorrow and spot a Potential Love Partner. He or she is sitting on the steps reading a book. Or standing in a museum studying a painting. Or getting on the bus. Or waiting in line at the bank cash machine. You sneak a second peek. Something about the stranger revs up your internal PEA factory, and a little dollop goes squirting through your veins. Maybe it's her looks, the way he moves, something she's wearing.
Her aura? Is this love at first sight? Does love at first sight even exist? Well, that's a semantics question. Instant desire, or lust at first sight, definitely exists. However, the scientific world pretty well agrees that love at first sight is merely Monday-morning quarterbacking. A successful love affair, perhaps one leading to marriage, is retrospectively declared to be true love; whereas if one is rebuffed, it is classified.
Semantics aside, one fact remains. Any small stimulus can kick-start love. Your first moves when you spot a Potential Page Love Partner are crucial. If, from that powerful stimulus, love grows, you have every right to call it love at first sight. Nobody will argue with you. Love at first sight has survived because it is an integral part of the many popular beliefs about romantic love.
Romantic love is an important cultural value to Americans. The picture burns its way into his or her eyes and can stay emblazoned in your Quarry's memory forever. I have a dear friend, an older gentleman named Gerald, who is very sought after in the social scene of his hometown. He is a charming escort for several elderly ladies who long ago lost their husbands. Gerald met these women when they were all in high school together back in the late OS. His women friends are inwardly beautiful; however, physically, several have gained weight and have long since lost their youthful attractiveness.
Once, at a party, I overheard a rude man tease Gerald about his taste in women. My friend was genuinely confused at the tactless remark. He reached into his wallet and pulled out an old, dog-eared black-and-white photograph of his high school homecoming queen and her court. Two of the three ladies he was currently escorting were in the photo.
One of them was Page To this day, Gerald sees his lady friends as beautiful as they were back in Such is the power of first impressions. Image consultants are paid thousands of dollars to pontificate in boardrooms across America, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
What's new is this: Even as we enter the 21st century, we don't really comprehend the unbelievable compass and consequence of first impressions. Or on what lilliputian details they are sometimes based. Gentlemen, one backward baseball cap or gold chain flashing through the hair on your chest can make or break a budding relationship with the lady before you even say "hi. Be Ready for Love—Always! By the time you have the date, your Quarry's first impression of you has already been set. How you look on the date is, of course, important.
But it's not nearly as decisive as his or her first glimpse of you. You don't realize it, but here's the sad truth: You have probably let dozens of PLPS get away in recent months just because your trap wasn't set—you weren't fixed up for the kill. Hunters, that means you weren't dressed for the part. Huntresses, that means you weren't groomed properly. Research shows that for men, clothes are more crucial to first impressions. For women, it's her body and face. Huntresses, you may well ask, "Is makeup all that important?
Researchers asked men to talk with six different women who sometimes wore makeup, sometimes didn't. Their study, "Lipstick as a Determiner of First Impressions of Personality," revealed that the male opinion of each woman was very different when she wore lipstick. If he's a typical male attracted by rosy lips and nice big eyes, what do you expect?
Men, how many times, in your grungy clothes, have you tried to talk to Lovely Lady on the bus who gives you a cursory answer and looks away? If she's a typical woman attracted by an air of competence and success, what do you expect? Women, it does not mean you need to slap on three coats of mascara to walk the dog. What it does mean is whenever you step out the door, step out dressed to kill. We get lazy about first impressions due to the reinforcement theory.
Say you fix yourself up for the kill. You go out to walk the dog three times, four times, looking like a traffic stopper, and nothing happens. So you say, "Hey, this doesn't work. Give it some time. Can't you wait five more dog-walks for your future beloved to say, "Nice doggy. What's his name? And, by the way, what's yours? Stay Psychologically ''Fit to Kill" Not only should you be physically ready, you must keep your mental doors open to let love walk in.
PLPS don't just enter your life from parties and singles' clubs. Cindy is an attractive young manicurist who has been doing my nails for several years. There must be some drug in nail polish remover that dissolves women's inhibitions and induces them to spill every detail of their lives as they hold hands across the manicure table. For months Cindy had been griping to me that, in her line of work, all she meets is women.
I had a late appointment with Cindy one evening about six o'clock. She was telling me how, after a long day of clipping, filing, and painting, she's too tired to go out to singles' bars to try to meet someone. At about P. We heard a deep male voice say, "Excuse me, I know it's terribly late. But is it possible to get a manicure? I had no idea such deities needed manicures! Before I could pull my jaw back up, Cindy, not even turning around, said, "Nope, we close in ten minutes. She jumped up to look, and there was her Adonis careening out of the parking lot, and out of her life, forever in his sleek chariot.
She didn't stop kicking herself long enough for me to respectfully suggest that one should keep one's eyes open all the time for such opportunities. One salesman friend of mine clinched a multi million-dollar corporate insurance deal with another nude man he met in his health club Jacuzzi. You can, as the old song says, "find a million-dollar baby in a five-and-ten-cent store. Fishermen cast nets long before the swarm swims their way. If you set your psychological trap the minute your feet hit the floor in the morning, chances are the next big one won't get away. Now you are physically and mentally ready for love.
The next question is, "How can I make my Quarry's insides go all funny when he or she meets me? They're right above your nose. Many people swear, "I fell in love the moment I looked into my lover's eyes. And, although many women will insist otherwise, most women are certified butt watchers. This is not just idle conjecture: a British study determined that these are people's favorite eyeball destinations.
When you were a teenager being reluctantly or otherwise introduced to strangers, your parents probably told you, "Look right into their eyes. Powerful eye contact immediately stimulates strong feelings of affection. They gave them directions on how much eye contact to have with their partners during casual conversation. Afterward, the researchers asked each participant how he or she felt about the various people they had spoken with.
The results? Page 36 Subjects who were gazing at their partner's eyes and whose partner was gazing back reported. Subjects who engaged in mutual gaze increased significantly their feelings of passionate love. Journal of Research in Personality Let's say that in less technical language: Locking eyeball to eyeball with the attractive stranger helps put the match to the flame of love.
Why does eye contact have such fiery consequences? Anthropologist Helen Fisher says it is basic animal instinct. When you look directly and potently into someone's eyes, his or her body produces chemicals like phenylethylamine, or PEA , that jolts the sensation of being in love.
Thus, making strong, almost threateningly intense eye contact with your Quarry is one of the first steps in making him or her fall in love with you. People look lingeringly at sights they like and quickly avert their eyes from those they don't. We enjoy gazing for long, lazy hours into a cozy fire, yet our hands jerk up to shield our eyes from an atrocious movie scene.
It's the same when looking at people. We gaze lovingly at our lovers, yet avert our eyes from unpleasant, ugly, or dull people. When someone bores us, the first part of our body to escape is our eyes. I'm acutely aware of this phenomenon during my speeches. Whenever I drone on too long about a particular point, audience members bury their noses in their notes. Inspecting their manicures takes on prime importance. Some even nod off. When I get back on track, their eyes flutter up like butterflies returning to the sunshine after a rainstorm.
Another, almost opposite, factor that blocks good eye contact is shyness. The more someone overwhelms us, the more we avoid his or her eyes. Very low-ranking employees often avert their gaze from the big boss. If we meet someone extraordinarily handsome, beautiful, or accomplished, we tend to do the same. In my seminars, I strive to make eye contact with everyone in the audience. However, if there is an especially handsome man in the sea of faces, I often find myself avoiding his gaze. I look into the eyes of everybody but him. My heart skips a beat. I sometimes lose my train of thought.
I stutter. Powerful stuff, this eye contact. A British scientist determined that, on the average, when talking, people look at one another only 30 to 6o percent of the time. This is not enough to rev up the engines of love at first sight. While he was still a graduate student at the University of Michigan, a prominent psychologist named.
Zick Rubin became fascinated with how to measure love. Later, at Harvard and Brandeis, the romantic young researcher produced the first psychometrically based scale to determine how much affection couples felt for each other. It became known as Rubin's Scale and, to this day, many social psychologists use it to determine people's feelings for each other. In his study on the ''Measurement of Romantic Love," Zick Rubin found that people who were deeply in love gaze at each other much more when talking and are slower to look away when somebody intrudes in their world.
He asked dating couples a long series of questions so he could first rate the pairs on how much they loved each other. The couples, unaware of their rating, Page Hidden cameras recorded how much time the couples spent staring into each other's eyes. The higher the couple had scored on the first test, the more time they spent looking at each other.
The less love they felt for each other, the less time they made eye contact. To give your Quarry the subliminal sense that the two of you are already in love a self-fulfilling prophecy , dramatically increase your eye contact while the two of you are chatting. Push it up to 75 percent of the time or more if you want to get the PEA gushing through his or her veins. The extra seconds of eye contact speak silent volumes. To a woman, the volumes will read, "Beautiful lady, I am intrigued by you.
I am fascinated by what you are saying. I can't wait to tear your clothes off and have you make mad passionate love to me. Pretend you're admiring the optic nerve behind the eyeballs. Wisdom for the ages gleaned from The King and I is "Whistle a happy tune, and you will be happy. Search for his or her optic nerve. Lock eyes with your Quarry to give the aura of already being in love.
There's more to it than just looking deeply into someone's eyes, however. You must make your own eyes warm and inviting. Staring into the frigid eyes of a dead fish does nothing to incite love. Neither Bette Davis nor Clark Gable had a patent on them. We all have that suggestive look buried deep in our evolutionary psyche. Ethnologists have even named it the copulatory gaze. The copulatory gaze plays a big role in lovemaking. For example, before having sex, pygmy chimpanzees—which are about as close to human as an ape can get—spend several moments staring deeply into each other's eyes.
Sex without eye contact is difficult for some primates. Several Finnish researchers introduced male and female baboons to each other. With blinder devices, they varied what part of the female's anatomy the male baboon got a gander at first. When the male's initial glimpse of his lady love was her genitals, only five ejaculations occurred. However, when he first gazed into her eyes before getting a peek at her privates, twenty-one ejaculations occurred.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher goes so far as to say, "Perhaps it is the eye—not the heart, the genitals, or the brain—that is the initial organ of romance. Quite simply, large pupils.
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Incidentally, examine old photographs of Bette Davis or Clark Gable, and you will see enormously expanded pupils. Undoubtedly a retouching job, but, hey! The father of a science which became known as pupillo-metrics, Dr. Eckhard Hess, demonstrated that large pupils were more alluring by showing two pictures of a woman's face to a group of men. The pictures were identical except, in one of them, Hess had retouched the lady's pupils to make them Page The male response to Ms. Big Pupils was twice as strong as to the identical woman with small pupils.
Hess then reversed the experiment and showed pictures of men with enlarged pupils to women. Same positive female response to Mr. Big Pupils. Hess tells us that we can't consciously control our pupil size, but in the early s he proved that we can at least manipulate it. He hooked male subjects up to a Rube Goldberg device to measure their pupil fluctuations and proceeded to show them a series of photographs.